Thursday, October 15, 2026

Fredrik Backman - My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's Sorry

Elsa is seven years old and different. Her grandmother is seventy-seven years old and crazy—as in standing-on-the-balcony-firing-paintball-guns-at-strangers crazy. She is also Elsa’s best, and only, friend. At night Elsa takes refuge in her grandmother’s stories, in the Land-of-Almost-Awake and the Kingdom of Miamas, where everybody is different and nobody needs to be normal.
When Elsa’s grandmother dies and leaves behind a series of letters apologizing to people she has wronged, Elsa’s greatest adventure begins. Her grandmother’s instructions lead her to an apartment building full of drunks, monsters, attack dogs, and old crones but also to the truth about fairy tales and kingdoms and a grandmother like no other.
My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry is told with the same comic accuracy and beating heart as Fredrik Backman’s bestselling debut novel, A Man Called Ove. It is a story about life and death and one of the most important human rights: the right to be different.

Comment: One more book I try by this author... this was also available at the library and that is the reason I decided to read it, for some of the books I tried before by this author had not met my personal expectations.

Elsa is a seven year old who lives in a building with many neighbors, all unique somehow. Elsa loves her grandmother, whom everyone claims is crazy, but that is what helped her to be someone Elsa loves, especially with her skill to share stories. However, Elsa's grandmother is ill and dies when this story starts, which leaves Elsa with a final request on her hands. She now has to hand in letters to the neighbors, letters her grandmother wrote apologizing for something, but this will prove to be quite complicated, after all Elsa is only seven! As she tries to go on with her task, Elsa discovers a lot about the neighbors and how they actually knew her grandmother...

After having a less than great experience with the last books by the author I had tried, I was a little reticent about starting this one, but the fact it was at the library and that it wasn't very big convinced me. I also had a tiny hope that it would be more alike A Man Called Ove (that I liked) than Anxious People (which wasn't great)...

The story is third person but always with Elsa's POV. Since she is a child, clearly many things are seen in a dubious way and the reader needs to read between the lines. Some situations are obvious, while others only become understandable as Elsa goes on with her mission, and in a way this is the best thing of the novel, how we can infer so much through the perspective of someone who might not see things as an adult... although, to be fair, Elsa is quite mature for her age.

The plot then follows a very linear sequence, with the reader following Elsa in her letter delivery, which isn't as simple as it sounds, for with each letter comes learning, context of why that person receives a letter and, as things move along, the obvious fact that everyone in the building had a special connection to Elsa's grandmother. I liked this method and some of the things we learn are quite thought provoking, even though disguised under the apparent simplicity of a child's observation.

Then, as we get closer to the end, certain details bring up the real secrets in this story and how a few details that seemed unimportant are actually the key to a few situations being cleared. I've felt invested enough in what was happening and wanted to see Elsa succeed in her mission, and some details were surprising enough to make this a worthy experience, but at the same time, if one thinks about the writing style this author is known for, I also had moments when it seemed everything was too vague and subtle and didn't have the gravitas it required. At least, until a certain emotional scene towards the end.

I liked Elsa as a main character, she is a special child, used to reading, used to have someone sharing fairy tales and stories with her, allowing her to dream and to reach for more, especially when we realize that this uniqueness makes a target for bullying at school. The secondary characters were all interesting in their own way and I did like the interactions beetween some of them, and more so how Elsa seems to become closer to her divorced parents while she goes on this adventure.

I would say this an emotional story about the meaning of our actions, the meaning of the relationships with have with others and how some people simply leave a mark that is everlasting. I liked this book, yes, but not as much as I've liked my favorite books by this author.
Grade: 7/10

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